April 4, 2014


We are all fascinated when we hear the news of a celebrity breakup. How could two seemingly perfect human beings find fault in each other? What went wrong? The latest in our breakup file is that of Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin. The news is everywhere and of course we want every detail so much so that celebrities feel the need to put out an official statement to publicly end their love affair. I didn't even want my latest breakup to hit Facebook. Paltrow took to her criticized website Goop to share the news. However, this statement was a little different leaving the emotionally challenged wondering, what is conscious uncoupling?

"We have always conducted our relationship privately," Paltrow stated, "and we hope that as we consciously uncouple and co-parent, we will be able to continue in the same manner."

Conscious Uncoupling is a term coined by famous author Katherine Woodward Thomas and is non-dramatic approach to end a relationship without pointing fingers. In a five week program called "The Art of Conscious Uncoupling", couples learn to separate in a healthy, mature manner in order to fully heal and move on. 

According to Thomas, most breakups take an average of five years to heal from and in learning to heal these wounds, you may find a true, meaningful relationship. Self-reflection and breathing exercises help to lesson victimization and drama. I really hope it doesn't take five years to heal because that means I have three more to go from my past breakup. Truth is, I think I am OK.

So let's thank Gwyneth for opening our eyes to a new, peaceful trend in breaking up and a new term for us to throw around over mimosas at brunch. I wonder who will be the next couple to consciously uncouple? Brad and Angelina? I guess I'll have to keep reading Us Weekly to find out.

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